Are You A Good Lover?

There are two things that make for a good lover . . . communication & technique.

Communication
Without good communication skills you can not be a good lover.  You are lost.  Let's examine what needs to be communicated and how to communicate it.  First, you need to know what your lover likes and dislikes.  This includes everything from how she is kissed to how much pressure she likes on sensitive areas.  In order to establish the answers to these questions you must encourage your lover to talk.  That means establishing a relationship whereby she knows that her suggestions and/or comments will be greeted as constructive rather than demeaning.  It should be noted that it is your lady's responsibility to present her desires in a loving manner, taking your feelings into account.  However, she should not be afraid to speak!  Ask questions.  Find out her deepest fantasies and try to incorporate them (or aspects of them) into your lovemaking.  Talk after sex about things she particularly liked or disliked and tell her what you thought.  Encourage talk and prompting during lovemaking. "Yes, I like that" or "No, move lower" are simple communications that result in a wealth of knowledge.  Ask for suggestions on how to please her.  Also ask about non-sexual acts that please and pamper her.  And remember, communication can be more than just sound.  Some of the most telling communication is through sight, smell or taste!  If your lady greets you wearing high heels and a body stocking that vision should signal she is ready to play!  If she is wearing a special perfume you should notice that.  And if she tastes sweeter than honey you should let her know!  Tell her what there is about her that turns you on.  Once you have established good communication you can move on to technique.

Technique
Good technique consists of many things.  You must be able to create an atmosphere that communicates sensuality and tells your lover that you want her.  This includes keeping yourself well-groomed and desirable. You must be good not only with your genitals but with your mouth and hands as well.  You must know all of her erogenous zones and how to pleasure them which, with all the ladies I know, means every inch of their bodies.  Use different positions.  Try new things like various locations, costumes, role-playing, erotic pleasure objects, massage oils, S&M, B&D.  (I realize this blog is only providing suggestions at this point, not instruction, but we will get into the actual "how to" in other blogs)  Meanwhile get yourself a good guide to lovemaking such as "The Modern Kama Sutra," "The Art of Sensual Massage," or "365 Sex Positions."  An important part of lovemaking is what you do after.  You should hold your lover and tell her how happy she makes you.  This is the ultimate time for communicating mutual needs and desires.  Ask her if she is satisfied.  Did she have multiple orgasms?  If not you are not finished!  Bring her to climax manually or orally.  You lady's satisfaction should always be your ultimate goal.  When you are both satiated and in each others embrace you can say you had a mutually satisfying sexual experience!

Have Fun,
Lady's Man